little bit of lagniappe

reflecting on everyday grace

“I wanna see you (and me) be BRAVE!”

HAPPY SATURDAY, friends!  Today, I’m offering an interesting post that invites you to do more than just read…

1.  LISTEN:

(how many of you got up and danced like wild goats in a field of dandelions after watching this like I did? It’s hard NOT to move to and with the beats of this song…)
2. DIGEST:
“Brave” by Sara Bareilles
You can be amazing
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug
You can be the outcast
Or be the backlash of somebody’s lack of love
Or you can start speaking up
Nothing’s gonna hurt you the way that words do
When they settle ‘neath your skin
Kept on the inside and no sunlight
Sometimes a shadow wins
But I wonder what would happen if you
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you…I just wanna see you…I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you…I just wanna see you…I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
Everybody’s been there,
Everybody’s been stared down by the enemy
Fallen for the fear
And done some disappearing,
Bow down to the mighty
Don’t run, just stop holding your tongue
Maybe there’s a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave isSay what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be braveWith what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be braveAnd since your history of silence
Won’t do you any good,
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don’t you tell them the truth?Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be braveWith what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be braveI just wanna see you…I just wanna see you…I just wanna see you…I wanna see you be brave

 

3.  REFLECT:

What does being BRAVE really mean anyway?

Do you think of Braveheart roaring “I am WILLIAM WALLACE!” before the attack for freedom or about soldiers offering their lives on the battlefield? What about the firemen and women and police officers risking their own lives on the streets to save others?  When it comes being BRAVE, these are certainly powerful, true examples, but I do think there are far more possibilities and opportunities to see and celebrate the every-day bravery in ourselves and others.

When I first saw this video thanks to two dear and very brave friends (Mary and Anne, I love you!), I longed to be in it with Sara B. and dance like a fool right alongside her and those fabulous, yet very ordinary people like me. Craziness like that has always appealed to the child-like loon that I am (no wonder I teach Middle School), and while I think those dancers in her video are indeed brave (especially the precious red-shirted wonder in the weight room), I think her message speaks to far more than just getting up and dancing wherever you are if you like.

For years, I’ve been tangled up in my own cluttered thinking that I had to do what others expected me to — that I had to never disappoint or stir up or heavens, be REALLY honest when it came down to it.  I have been too afraid of hurting feelings, letting others down, or detaching from the image of what people THOUGHT I was (what Richard Rohr calls “the False Self” that I started to believe in myself) rather then being content with who I really was.  That’s not brave.

When I think about being BRAVE now, I think about being honest. I think about telling the truth no matter what – the truth about who we are and what we want or need — a truth we so often hide from because of fear and insecurity.  So many friends (book friends and “real” friends, although I’d just prefer to call them all friends because that is what they are) have helped me arrive to where I am now, and Brené Brown has especially opened my eyes to see that “the risk of losing yourself would be far more dangerous than the risk of letting people see the real you.” Wow. Amen.

So, what do you see in yourself…without judgement?

What would you tell someone…if you weren’t afraid?

When I think about being BRAVE now, I think about feeling vulnerable and uncertain, but going through with it anyway. I think about telling someone I love them.

When I think about being BRAVE now, I think about having face-to-face conversations that are HARD, yet their hardness reveals their necessity.

When I think about being BRAVE now, I think about motherhood, faith, authentic friendship, telling a story, inviting someone over, sharing music, playing music, painting, writing, singing, saying “no” when you need to, smiling at a stranger, striking up a conversation, listening, being silent, calling a friend you haven’t spoken with in a while, saying “I’m sorry,” or breaking a rule that you’ve set for yourself and held so rigidly for far too long…

Dear friends, let us see and invite and celebrate the bravery in others and in yourself today. If this life itself is grace, what, then, are we waiting for?

BE honest.

SPEAK truth.

BE your authentic self without apology or disclaimer.

What does BEING BRAVE look like for you this week?  this day?  right now?

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One thought on ““I wanna see you (and me) be BRAVE!”

  1. Hey Cart!

    Thank you for the encouragement to be brave:)  It is always good to be reminded of the need to be open and honest even when it is difficult (I am so bad at that, but we prize “honesty” in our society and in our faith – perhaps in different ways?)

    Shelvis told me that he saw you at Westminster.  Any chance I could see you and give you a hug soon?  I am free Sunday, Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday after school, and would love to catch up if you have some free time!

    I am at my mom’s house on bedrest, and Shelvis and Jordan are in Pittsburgh til Thursday.

    Love you Cart!

    Nancy

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